So I want to start by saying that the situations, comments and opinions that I express are based completely on my own experiences and do not group the entire male gender together.
In order to get the full picture of what is going on I'll need to paint you a picture.
This is my typical day:
I get up between 6:00 am and 6:30 am all depends on if my alarm clock wakes me up or if it's my 3 yr old son. I make breakfast for the two of us and we eat together. Afterwards I put on the TV to the Disney channel so he can watch cartoons while I take my shower and get ready. After I'm dressed and ready to go I get him dressed and we head out the door. I drive him to daycare where I drop him off at about 8:15 am. Then I'm off to work where I spend the majority of my day 9 am - 5 pm. Most of the time I have to leave right at 5 pm to pick up my son from daycare as Daddy has called earlier in the day and can't. Let me just say the the drive from my work to the daycare in order to get there in time to pick him up is very tight. I get off work at 5 pm and they close at 5:30 pm and it takes about 20 - 25 mins or so depending on traffic. After I pick him up we head home where I give him a snack while I make supper. Making supper is a complex proccedure. First I have to wash the dishes as there is no clean dishes to eat off of. I spend the next half hour of so preparing a healthy dinner. We sit down and eat our meal together. After supper I clear the dishes and give the little one a bath and get him dressed for bed. We pick out a story book and I tuck him into bed and read him a good night story followed by a lullabye. My night doesn't end there by now it's 8 pm and I've got to get a load of laundry going. That involves pre-washing clothes, filling the washing machine, moving wet clothes from the washer to the dryer, and then from the dryer to the bedroom where I fold/hang clothes and put them away. While the clothes are washing I now clean up the kitchen and wash the supper dishes. And maybe around 9:30 pm I'll sit down to watch one of my show's that has recorded on my DVR earlier in the evening. After the show is over I get ready for bed and go to sleep for the night. The same continues every weekday. Weekends are different, as not only am I watching a 3 yr old but I am trying to get caught up on household chores and yard work.
During this routine that I preform every day/week neverending would you like to know what the other half's routine is? Of course you do.
He doesn't have a set time that he gets up in the morning. On average it's usually around 11 am. But there have been days when I've spoken to him at 3 pm and he's just gotten out of bed. He sits down at his computer and plays his online games whenever possible. He is self employed but seems to come up with every excuse in the book as to why he's not working that day. Client called and cancelled, it's raining, didn't get up in time I'll do that job tomorrow, oh and my favorite I didn't have anything scheduled for today when he did as he filled me in the night before what he was planning on doing for the day. When he is out working ususally it's only for a few hours a day. But because he gets up so late it means that he can't get to the daycare in time to pick up our son, hence why I have to run out of work at 5 pm to get there on time. His evenings are spent sitting in front of the computer on his game. I try and get him to spend time with his son and I and he responds that he is. I can't remember a time where we watched a movie together when he wasn't on the game at the same time. He is overweight and it scares me that he's going to have medical issues in the near future. I cook supper as when he does it ends up being burgers and fries, or something completly unhealthy. He continues to play his game through dinner (we all eat in the living room together, that's where he put his computer so he could be on it most of the time), and well into the night. Some nights he doesn't come to bed until well after I've gone to sleep, well that's most nights. And any conversations that we have tend to revolve around his game. Like I know what the hell he's talking about. Weekends are worse as I get up at the crack of dawn with our son I'm lucky if he gets out of bed before 2 pm. And the rest of the day is then filled with complains of how tired his is, how exhausted he is and heaven forbid that our boy wakes him up before 11 am now I get in trouble that I didn't let him sleep in.
Here's the kicker: For every hour of work that he puts in he makes $65 in labor alone never mind the product that he's installing. I make $12 an hour at my job. I bring in over $1500 a month he's lucky if he brings in $400. All the money that I make goes to paying rent $700/mth, daycare $40/mth (subsidy), food, cable, internet, etc , etc , etc. I also end up having to give him money for autopac, gas, smokes and a few other things as he isn't making enough to pay for them on his own. Oh and get this he's the one that gets the child tax every month.
I'm a 28 yr old female supporting a 3 yr old boy and a 34 yr old male.
After reading all this if you don't think he's a free loader than what is he....he's definitly pathetic.
I stay with him because I guess I'm hoping that he'll smarten up and be there for his boy, but enough is enough I'm contemplating getting my own place and letting him learn the valuable lesson in this situation....
If you don't want to go out and get a job that pays you. If you don't want to help with things around the house. If you don't want to care for your child.
Then you should be alone.
